n Chapter Six
Relationships and Guidance
n Building Positive Relationships
n Appropriate Guidance Strategies and Practices
n What is Guidance?
Children…
n Learn to direct and manage their own behavior
n Move towards self control
n Build skills for engaging in satisfying relationships
n Learn about their needs and the needs of others
n Guidance is Based on TRUST
(Bowlby 82, Howes & Ritchie 2002)
n Trusting relationship with teacher necessary in order for children to learn
n When trust is present children use teachers as a resource
n Creating and maintaining positive relationships should be primary guidance focus
n These relationships built upon trust
n Guidance is NOT Punishment
n Guidance is a process to develop self control, to understand and use constructive behaviors instead of misbehavior
n Select practices that nurture, support and teach
n Avoid practices that harm or punish
n Long Term Goals for Guidance
n Self control, inner discipline, ability to regulate behavior
n Develop resiliency, self confidence, & self direction
n Develop skills in critical thinking and reasoning
n Develop skills for living in a community: cooperation, responsibility, empathy
n Short Term Goals for Guidance
n Respect and care for feelings and rights of oneself and others
n Use toys, tools, materials carefully
n Safety for oneself and others
n Relationships are Built through Communication
n Time and Attention
n Respectful and Authentic Speech
n Effective Listening
n Nonverbal Messages
n Active Listening
n Reflective and Responsive Statements
n Encouragement instead of Praise
n I Messages
n Some Ideas for Transition Games
n Turn to the above box in your text (page 201)
n Review the games listed with a partner or small group
n Create and design another game
n Share your idea with the whole group by asking them to play
n Social & Emotional Development and Preventing Challenging Behavior
n Model developed by CSEFEL-Vanderbilt University, 2007
n Pyramid Model
n Positive Relationships – Bottom Level
n Supportive Environment – Second Level
n Social and Emotional Teaching Strategies – Third Level